Family Law in Ireland
Making Your Divorce Easier
Divorces and separations are never easy. The entire process causes emotional upheaval for everyone involved: the separating couple, family and friends to both sides, and, especially, children. It is very important to consider the children before anything else while going through a divorce. Of course, there are a few things you can do to make the whole process easier:
1. Have An Honest Discussion With Your Spouse.
If it is at all possible - and there is no threat to you or your children - schedule a time when you can meet with your spouse. Agree to speak and act in a civil manner and refrain from angry words or tones. It is very important that you can express your wishes to your spouse. These conversations can often bring about agreements between the two of you, and, while it probably won't lead to reconciliation, these discussions can bring about compromise on touchy issues. If it really is so bad that you can't sit and talk with your spouse to discuss plans for the children and other matters, sometimes, a neutral, third-party mediator can make all the difference. Of course, if you are afraid that your spouse will hurt you or your children, you should skip this step and do what you think is best for you and your children.
2. Make A List Of Issues You Want Addressed.
Before going into any meeting with your spouse or your spouse's solicitor, make a list of issues you would like to address at the meeting. This can keep the discussion focused, and will help to bring about agreements and compromises as the details get attention.
3. Be Willing To Compromise.
Sometimes, it is better for everyone involved if we only get some of what we want. Agreeing to some of your spouse's requests might make him or her more amenable to agreeing to a few of yours. For instance, if your spouse desperately wishes to have the children over the Christmas holiday, perhaps you would be willing to grant this if your spouse agrees to let you have the children over school summer holiday.
4. Don't Bring Uninvolved Parties Into It.
It's important that you appear as upstanding as possible throughout the divorce process and after. Make a concerted effort not to "bad mouth" your spouse in front of his or her friends, co-workers, family, and, especially, your children. Respecting your spouse despite your disagreements that led to your divorce or separation is important in making the whole process easier on everyone involved.
5. Be Reasonable.
Try not to let your emotions and/or anger get the best of you. Try to remain as calm and reasonable as possible, despite what your spouse may ask for or put you through. Similarly, try to keep your demands and requests reasonable. As stated above, the ability to be flexible with some things can make the road easier on everyone.
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